Hi, My name is Shalom and I am fascinated by money, travel, and family. Why? I believe they are intertwined and most people are looking for a way to have all of them! I know I was! This is a journey of how I found all of them.
Growing up, my parents did not have much and while that is not a big deal (so many people go through this) poverty made sure that my parents were in a foul mood all the time, especially my mother.
I grew up being yelled at, being spanked and pretty much hearing ‘no’ whenever I asked them to buy me something. My dad’s classic answer was “I will think about it” while my mothers were “I don’t have money.” “Money does not grows on trees” or “Ask your father.”
I am not trying to discredit my parents as horrible people. Not at all. They are awesome, and I love them to bits.
They did the best they could under the circumstances. What I know, however, is that some of the statements I came to believe have caused havoc in my life and it took a conscious decision to stop that thought pattern and create a new blueprint.
Why Clear Your Thoughts Today
I was always in fight-flight mode, escaped depression by a whisker, and I complained whenever someone gave me a listening ear. This made me a terrible wife and an even worse parent.
I remember one time my daughter looking at me frighten because I was about to spank her for using all the cleaning powder to wash one scarf and one sock.
“Mom I just wanted to help” was her defense. But that look; That look made me stop. It made me question my parenting style, myself and the decisions I was making regarding my life and my family.
This is not who I wanted to be, and it is definitely not who I had dreamed of becoming as a little girl.
I needed to clear my thoughts, get perspective and make a solid plan of how things were going to move forward from that moment on.
I started searching for answers, first outside myself and I found some excellent guides from the likes of Anthony Robbins, Lisa Nichols, and Dr. Joe Dispenza.
I was hungry for knowledge, and I consumed it in large quantities. I read books, listened to audio files, watched videos, anything to get me answers. Until I finally found it.
Clear your thoughts, change our life.
The answers I had been looking for were in me all along. All I needed to do was reach within and grab them. I started the journey to clear my thoughts, tackling each day as it came. I did my best to arrest all negative thoughts and focus on positive thoughts.
It was hard at first, but I eventually conquered. I slip sometimes, I am only human, but the slip does not drive me to near depression because now I know the truth. As I think, so I am.
My journey has led me to adopt new parenting methods. I don’t yell anymore, I don’t spank, and my relationship with my firstborn is better than it has ever been.
Adopting the positive parenting model has taught me that kids are human beings. They may be little and in need of guidance, but they are human beings. They have feelings, thoughts, and ambitions. My job as a parent is to guide them and create age-appropriate limits putting into consideration their development stage.
They are happier that way, and so am I.
Get Your Finances in Order
I have been broke throughout my twenties! In fact, when I look back, I achieved nothing, at least in terms of my personal finances. I got deeper into dept, and I managed to borrow from everyone I know! I could not hold on to a job for more than 6 months and I was always stressed out by the thought of waking up to work!
It was frustrating. I desperately wanted things to work, but I did not know-how. Or what was the cause of all this mess! When I started learning about the power of habit, I finally understood myself. Why I was the way I was around money. Why I knew how to earn it, but could not. And why I could never keep any of it!
I started making small baby steps to being a better financial manager and to mending my relationship with money. Slowly by slowly I paid up all my debts and mended my one of the most important relationships. I still have a long way to go, but I am glad I am not where I was. And…
It has taken less than 6 months to make the changes!
Yes, 6 months! If I can do it, anybody can. I was deep down the rabbit hole. No income, terrible attitude towards work, and no skills! But in short six months I am almost out of debt (still need to pay my students loan), but that’s definitely better than being swamped in debt.
I know how it feels to be broke. I know how it feels when you start building your cash flow, and I know how it feels to be on the edge of the other side. If you are starting your journey, I hope my journey will help you grow to where you desire. Walk with me, and I will do my best to answer your questions and help you becomes who you want to be.
If you have made it this far, thank you. I appreciate the time you have taken to read my story, and I value the relationship we are going to build.
I am here for you to help you with your development journey, as you grow personally, raise your kids or get your finances in order. I respond to all emails that hit my inbox and want to know how I can help you on your journey.